Sunday, December 28, 2008

It's Christmastime in Darbun, MS

It is no secret that I have been greatly looking forward to going to see my family in Mississippi for the holiday. It is also no secret that I can say, without trying to brag too much, that I happen to think that my family is one of the coolest families around. Christmas in Mississippi reminded me of this once again. In my family, although I am the second of three sisters, I love how Christmas in Mississippi means waking up in the morning, taking a shower, and then absolutely not bothering to look in a mirror for the rest of the day. It means engaging in such feminine activities as tractor riding, gator riding, shooting, golfing and Wii playing as exhibited by the following:


Sarah and Melissa play baseball on the Wii that we got my parents for their respective birthdays.
Sarah practices her golf drives into the wind in my parents' backyard.

Here is where the real fun begins when Dad brings out the 22 (Jordan is pictured trying it out here). Although it may look like we are expert, we never shot guns when we were growing up except on that rare occasion when visiting family in Mississippi. Now, however, we all look to be seen as expert marksman, and spent much of the afternoon the day after Christmas adjusting our aim against a line of soda bottles and cans.

The time spent with a firearm also gave us the opportunity to learn more about one another. One piece of information I learned about my husband is that apparently, he likes shooting guns so much that he recently took his team from work in Seattle to a shooting range. For the urban yuppies that we are, I don't know whether I should be concerned by this or not.

Here I am doing my best to exhibit the classic definition of the word "hipshot."


Sarah's wonderful friend Helen, who works with Sarah at Harvard in Boston, but who is originally from the UK shared Christmas with us. I am sure her British family will be quite concerned when they see these firearm shots. It is precisely the kind of thing that those Brits find particularly appalling about us Yanks.

Just to make sure that the worst of American stereotypes was firmly cemented in pictures for Helen's family to see, my dad next brought out the Glock. I have to admit, this wasn't my first time shooting a Glock. I shot this same kind of gun back in my New York days, not roughing people up in the mean streets of the Bronx, but rather, at the Police Training Facility at City Island and also at the NYPD Ballistics Lab in Queens. For Sarah, pictured above, it was a new experience.

For the record, I would like to note that we followed the best possible gun safety practices, including protective earwear when shooting the pistol as seen above. As I was told by an NYPD officer at the training facility, "A gun is just like any other tool - like a blender or something. It is only dangerous when used incorrectly." I pause, to let you take that statement in.....




Back to slightly less dangerous activities, the time in Mississippi also gave my dad the opportunity to teach us to drive his new tractor, including a demonstration of picking up dirt from piles. Pictured below is Melissa, giving it a try:


It also gave us the opportunity to endulge in another favorite Street family activity - "Gator Ridin'".



Wait, who is that cute little puppy that I am holding in the shot above, you ask. Well, that is Knightley, our new puppy and the newest addition to the Street family. He officially joined the clan on December 24, 2008. He promptly set out fitting in and leaving his mark, literally.



Here is Mom introducing Knightley to Ralph. Although Ralph is more of a people dog than a dog's dog, I appreciate his patience in dealing with a very curious little puppy. (Sidenote: if you are a dog lover, you might want to think twice about seeing the movie Marley & Me. We made the mistake of seeing it on Christmas day, and Melissa and I bawled our eyes out so much, that we will still sobbing upon exiting the theater, the entire hour car ride back to the farm, and after we were home as well. It made us think about the mortality of Ralph, who is such a fantastic dog and who we know is starting to have some serious health problems. Here I go crying again as I am typing this. Fortunately, my mom went to the Tom Cruise Nazi movie with Sarah and Helen. If she would have seen Marley & Me with us, then she similarly would have been a wreck.)
Here is more evidence of my mom's affection for the canine variety:



Most of all, what made this Christmas so fantastic is the opportunity to spend time with my family, the people I love most. Melissa and Jordan gifted to my parents a fantastic outdoor fire pit that we made use of on a breezy warm evening. We cooked hotdogs and smores, talked, and sang along to our favorite songs. The evening was one of the best I can recall of recent memory.






Three loud huzzahs for the opportunity to spend Christmas together at a place already filled with happy memories.







Sunday, December 21, 2008

Contemplating Christmas

I am very excited for us to go to Mississippi in a couple of days and spend Christmas with my family. Of course, picking up our new puppy will also make this trip very exciting. In the meantime, we have been preparing for the Christmas season here in DC. We put up a tree and displayed our lovely African Gourd Nativity Scene -

Last night we visited the National Christmas Tree. How do I put this delicately . . . I was not impressed. I imagined that it would be much, much larger (having seen the Christmas tree at Rockafeller Center, my expectation is that National Christmas Tree would at least try to compete). Also, the tree was sort of lumpy. I wasn't expecting that.

I did enjoy the fifty states' trees display. They were very festive. My favorite was North Carolina, whose tree was decorated by children at Discovery Place, in Charlotte, a science museum we loved as kids. One of the ornaments displayed one of our favorite childhood adventures - Tweetsie Railroad in the Mountains of North Carolina.

Despite my lack of awe of the tree, the visit still managed to get me in a Christmas mood. The Christmas songs helped. And also, while their Christmas tree may not be impressive, they did manage to get the most impressive, authentic looking Santa Claus around. I didn't get a picture of him, because there were far too many people around him.




We also stopped for a moment, since we were in the neighborhood, to contemplate the future of this place:


Sometimes, I just love living in DC. This day helped - we also visited a great exhibit about the recovered art of Pompeii earlier in the day. Sidenote, and not to brag, but how great is it to walk to a fantastic museum exhibit (which is free) from your apartment. Lovely.

Thursday, December 18, 2008

Why I love Roy

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Unseasonably So

Here are some pictures my mom sent me of the crazy snow they had in Southern Mississippi today. They had about five inches at my parents' house which is just unbelievable...






It was up to Ralph's knees I tell you! I wish I could have been there to see it.

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

No Stamps Required

I have been trying to organize the boxes in our spare room, because the clutter of boxes, months after we have moved in, is really starting to drive me crazy. However, organization projects like these are very time consuming for me. I spend too much time going through the boxes of old essays, tests, school assignments, and various writing projects that I feel the need to save. However, what take up the most time for me, because I give them such a detailed reading, are my stacks and stacks of old, unsent letters to people. When I was in high school and in college I frequently would stay up late in the evenings writing letters to people that I knew I would never send. It was my way of communicating what I knew I could never actually say. Maybe in the back of my mind too, I had this idea that one day someone would really care to know what I had been thinking and feeling during those awkward years. Perhaps, I thought, I would be a famous writer and literary critics, scholars and fans would pour over my letters trying to understand my formative years and the emotions that shaped my life. It was a very naive notion. Certainly, no one is interested in the formative years of a law librarian.

Nonetheless, even though I only read the letters every 3-5 years, when I get the craving to clean and organize, I am happy that I have been so insistent on saving them. Because I am so intent on practicality these days, it is nice to be reminded of a time when feeling came first and idealism was the order of the day. Sometimes the total melodrama that I inflicted upon myself is completely grating, but endearing as well. When I am old and gray, I will know that I felt things deeply.

Tuesday, December 09, 2008

Nothing like a Good Arrest of a Politician..

To warm the soul during this holiday time of year. Here is a link to the criminal complaint of Governor Rod Blagojevich of Illinois, who apparently, was selling just about everything affiliated with state government short of the Illinois capital building itself.

Another corrupt politician, it just warms my little heart.

Fire Jon Favreau Now!

This story came out over the weekend, but I am so disgusted, I wanted to post this now. http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/washington/2008/12/obama-favreau.html

This 27 year old Frat jerk, who writes great words for Obama to speak needs to be fired by President-elect Obama now. This behavior is so offensive and certainly confirms that there are some incredibly disrespectful sexists among his closest advisors. Maybe Hillary can be quick to forgive, perhaps feeling that she has to since she is now a cabinet nominee, but for the sake of every other woman in America, Obama needs to clearly signify that this 27 year old's behavior has no place in his administration. I don't care if he was at a party, if he was drunk, whatever - the fact that this jerk thinks that he can act this way in any forum is evidence of his own inflated sense of self as well as his lack of respect for all women, much less a woman who is trying to serve this country.

And why isn't there more of an outcry over this? The best CNN could muster is, "Obama Speechwriter Favreau Learns the Perils of Facebook," as if somehow, it is Facebook's fault that this guy is Misogynist in Chief.

Monday, December 08, 2008

Worthy of Consideration

Regardless of whether you want to call it a rescue, bailout, or whatever - this report, detailing that as many as 3.3 million US jobs will be lost if the US automakers fail (from the Economic Policy Institute), is worthy of a look. Then, you need to decide whether or not to call your Representative or Senator and tell them that it is worth it or not. Or you could just decide to go out and but a new car built by one of the big three automakers. It is your decision.

Thursday, December 04, 2008

Some things never change

For example, how women continue to fare worse in terms of personal wealth. New studies point this never-changing condition out. However, generally, men on their own seem to do just fine.

People who act like gender differences in pay and wealth do not exist, simply are not apprised of reality.

Tuesday, December 02, 2008

There is a reason I have a hard time with the youth of today

This report about the Ethics of America's Youth pretty much points out the problems that I have with the youth of today. Newsflash: statistics report that the ethics of the youth of America is getting worse, or rather, that few are operating by any real ethical code. Although most youth respond that "It is important to be a person of good character", fewer and fewer of them are actually not cheating, stealing, and lying in general. So I am not sure what "good character" means to them.

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

My Dad's New Toy



Just when you think that you have learned to drive all of the existing modes of transportation and farm impliments at your parents' house, your Dad has to go out and buy a new tractor.

Guess what we will all be doing when we are home for Christmas (aside from playing with Ralph and the new puppy).

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Places to Avoid on your next Cruise

Before hitting the open waters, you might want to check out this map. Unless, of course, you don't mind your loved ones having to pay your ransom.

Saturday, November 15, 2008

A very long post that I am almost afraid to say

I want to recommend a thoughtful book on a very divisive subject. Same-Sex Marriage and Religious Liberty: Emerging Conflicts, is a collection of essays written by legal scholars on both sides of the same-sex marriage debate. And why I appreciate it, more than anything else, is that it is honest. All of the scholars in the book point out that it is dishonest for people on both sides of the debate to state that their position doesn't trample on the rights of the people on the other side of the debate. Proponent of same sex marriage and Georgetown Law Professor, Chai R. Feldblum writes of this conflict, "My primary argument is that we gain something as a society if we acknowledge that a law requiring that an individual act in a certain way might burden some individuals' belief liberties. Such an acknowledgment is necessary if we wish to be respectful of the whole person." Yet, I hear this acknowledgment entirely absent on the side of proponents of same sex marriage in the California debate. Instead, repeatedly, prononents have acted as though their side of the debate is the only side that respects rights, and have falsely claimed that their side of the debate doesn't demand some sacrifice of deeply held religious beliefs. Many proponents of same sex marriage in California have called the concerns expressed in Pro-Prop 8 media prior to the election false, namely their concerns about same-sex marriage being taught in schools, religious groups being targeted for losing tax-exempt status for refusing to perform same-sex marriage, religious speech being called hate speech, and the like. The legal scholars in this book, by carefully reviewing legal precedent in our own country as well as looking at how these conflicts have been handled in other countries. One scholar, Marc Stern looks at the conflicts that have already arisen, in the realm of housing, employment, places of public accomodation, commercial licensing, government funding, freedom of speech, and religious clubs in public schools and universities. These cases reveal that there is a conflict, and that it should be acknowledged.

So if the conflict is real, what is the answer? How do you ensure respect for those on both sides? Religious liberties were the foundation for this country. So acute was the importance of religous liberty in the founding of this country, that it was enshrined in the very first amendment to the constitution, "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof …". Some would argue that we should throw away this founding principle of our republic. As a person who is grateful for the religious liberty of this nation, knowing full well that my religion has flourished under those Constitutional conditions, it is discouraging to me that so many people would so willingly gloss over that Constitutional legacy.

Similarly, I feel, based on both my religious belief and my secular belief in individual liberty that people have the right to live in such a way that makes them happy, assuming insofar that their choices do not trample on the rights of others. People are entitled to love whomever they chose. Those choices should be respected in a system that promotes liberty. So in that vein, I do believe that rights of Gay and Lesbian Americans are also worth protecting. My friends and loved ones that are Gay and Lesbian Americans are wonderful people who contribute to society in all sorts of meaningful ways.

If this conflict is unavoidable, what do we do? I should note from the outset, that I believe the proper place for consideration is in the legislative branch of American government. I think that it is vital that the legislative branch be the forum to discuss and ultimately find solutions to these conflicts of interest. Only there are all voices given a chance to be heard, by conducting a full debate and listening to the concerns of people on both sides of the issue. I believe this in part because I believe that in the history of this country, rights for protected classes of people have some textual basis in origin. I have heard people repeatedly, and falsely, in my opinion, argue that the Civil Rights movement for African Americans was born in the courts. In actuality, the Fourteenth Amendment to the Constitution is the textual basis for the Civil Rights movement. Unfortunately, Supreme Court justices for many years didn't properly consider the 14th amendment and its purposes in terrible decisions like Plessy v. Fergueson. In the 1950s and 60s, Congress again re-emphasized these civil rights with the passage of the Civil Rights Acts. Fortunately, by this time a court that was willing to enforce the 14th amendment to the constitution was also in existence. On that same note, I just also want to mention the oft cited case of Loving v. Virginia, the case which ended race-based restrictions on the right to marry. Once again, the Fourteenth Amendment was the textual basis for this decision, "The Fourteenth Amendment requires that the freedom of choice to marry not be restricted by invidious racial discrimination. Under our Constitution, the freedom to marry, or not marry, a person of another race resides with the individual and cannot be infringed by the State." In law, racial discrimination is given a higher level of scrutiny "strict scrunity" which reflects not only the extreme history of discrimination that African Americans faced in this country and also the fact that such discrimination resulted in the creation of the 14th amendment. In the US, since the Civil Rights Acts of the 1950s and 60s, other pieces of legislation have been passed to protect particular individuals, such as the Americans with Disabilities Act. My point is this - it is the legislative body through which these determinations originate.

So, my belief in the legislative process for making these types of determinations being outed, what would my ideal legislative solution look like? First of all, the scholar Robin Fretwell Wilson argues that there has to be some sort of protection for people's conscience, assuming that reasonable accomodations can be made. I like this notion, very much. This is particularly key when determining whether or not tax exemptions for churches can continue to be maintained if same-sex marriage is legalized. As Wilson points out, the IRS's reaction to Bob Jones University based on their pattern of racial discrimination in the past is used by proponents of same-sex marriage (who do liken anti-same sex marriage feelings to racial discrimination), then tax-exempt religious institutions do have cause for concern. This in turn tramples on deeply held religious beliefs. Thus, there has to be some sort of legislative crafted exemption for religious institutions based on their deeply held beliefs, so far as reasonable, secular accomodations exist (example: religious social service organizations can continue their policies of considering only heterosexual couples for adoption because secular and governmental adoption agencies allow same-sex couples to adopt).

Secondly, I agree with Douglas Laycock, the editor of the book, that civil unions have to be separated out from the religious notion of marriage. In the book, Charles J. Reid, Jr. gives an excellent legal history into the foundation of marriage. Reid points out that marriage, in its inception was only given meaning in a religious context. Until the mid 1800s, family law matters and matters of marriage were the responsibility of ecclesiastical courts in Britian. The history of marriage and its definitions have always been governed by a religious context. However, what makes the issue slightly different today is that government now gives particular status to that relationship apart from its traditional, religious connotation. Reid himself believes that you shouldn't divorce the religious defintion from the legal definition because the two have always been bound up together (he uses specific case precedent to argue this, pointing out that our marriage laws still reflect religious definitions of marriage and that there isn't anything wrong with that because the institution has always been bound to religion). I deviate from Reid here in my beliefs, and instead agree with Laycock who writes, "Marriage is for churches; government should confine itself to civil unions." I think that this, combined with carefully crafted legislation to allow for religious, consciencious objectors to same sex relationships (when reasonable other accomodations are available) is the best solution that I see.

That being said, I think that much of what has gone on in the wake of Prop 8 has not been productive for anyone. I value any one else's free speech rights as much as I value my own (and believe strongly in the right to picket, protest, and boycott), but to catagorize persons who do not believe in same sex marriage as hateful bigots and threaten to take away the tax exempt status of churches because they preach their deeply held religious beliefs about the sanctity of marriage shows the exact kinds of concerns that religious people have about what will happen to religion in the wake of legalization of same sex marriages. It is clear people are divided, what would be more productive is to try to craft solutions so that people can come together.

An honest, respectful dialogue is what is needed. This is what I pray for. Read the book and look at what a respecful dialogue from people on both sides of the debate looks like.

Monday, November 03, 2008

For an alternative to the Traditional Media...

In the morning, when I arrive at work, every day I check the Docu Ticker website and the BeSpacific website for new reports and data that has been released on a host of subjects. Some of this the library archives, sometimes I find reports for faculty members and students that I know are researching particular areas. However, every morning, I find something that I want to read.

Today's highlight for example: The Germs Go Global Report from the Trust for America's Health.

As the traditional media becomes more and more ridiculous, websites like these are essential to staying informed entirely in a non-partisan manner.

Sunday, November 02, 2008

My Sister was a Beautiful Bride

Melissa was a beautiful bride for her wedding on October 24, 2008 to Jordan McInroe in Houston, TX. Here are just a few of my favorite shots from the day:
Melissa contemplating Jane Austen in her Josephine style Empire Waist Dress. I think any of the Bennet sisters couldn't have been prouder. As my father himself exclaimed, "Two daughters married in a year!"I will be honest; I didn't know much about this Jordan character prior to our trip to Texas. However, having finally met him, I feel some degree of assurance that he is a good person that will treat my beloved little sister well. Maybe it was just my opinion, but I thought that they seemed pretty happy.

Here is our ever growing family. My dad is probably pretty excited that there are some other men around.But aren't the Street ladies so lovely?Here are Melissa and Jordan before the reception at The Woodlands Resort. Melissa's hair looks so beautiful; once again, thanks to our cousin Danielle.Here are David and I excited to go for a delicious dinner and an excuse to dance like no one was watching (even though I am sure there were many watching in horror at our willingness to humiliate ourselves on the dance floor).The sign beckons us to the even.The scene is set for dinner.The cake is ready to be cut.
The hors d'ouevres are delicious.There even is the added bonus of seeing old friends like Alisa, who is now married with twins, but still one of the nicest people on the planet.
We have come a long way from falling asleep at night in our twin Strawberry Shortcake Canopy Beds.


Danielle looks lovely too.

Laughing at what is now a Street family wedding tradition - the exclamation "Amen, alright!" after the blessing on the food is said.
My favorite part, the anticipation of eating the cake.

Jordan may not dance, but I know Melissa is happy he favored her with at least one moment on the dance floor.Here are Mom and Dad on the dance floor. Maybe not noteworthy in and of itself, but considering that Mom had broken her foot earlier in the day in three places (though she wasn't diagnosed with this until the next day), I would say that my Mom is one tough cookie.
In spite of the pain, Mom was still able to give her dance floor shout out. Hillary copied this campaign move from my mom, in seeing how genuine Mom can do the finger point shout out. Hillary decided to try it in her campaign.Melissa in her solo bubble dance spotlight. I have never seen a shy girl be so willing to become the center of attention.We bid farewell to the McInroes, who are now blinded from the soap from the bubbles.
Their golf cart takes them to many adventures ahead in life.